Thanks, Barbara
I have been a bit lazy to write, lately, and on many mornings I find it hard to concentrate because my job life was eating me up. Up until recently so many people asked me about my deceased ex boss, and you can only answer the same question so and so many times. It especially started getting on my nerves when I got the impression that people just ask because they are personally inquisitive. If the funeral of my ex boss had been so important for them, they could also have attended it, like me, right?!
Then I had to clear out the office, and there was soooo much stuff in these cabinets. Incredible. It seemed like the last 2-3 managers had not cleared out their stuff. Finally, after I had done 60-70 per cent by myself (and nobody had cared), I walked up to a colleague who sits further away and had not seen how much I had worked, and I said "I need help".
The widow has still not contacted me. She is also an engineer like her deceased husband, so she knows how the game is played, and she knows we have things to regulate. I am sure she is an honest person, but she just thinks of her issues now. I somehow find it hard to accept that she did not even ask one of her grown children to call me. The legal department wanted his laptop because of certain data that belongs to the company. I finally told them to contact the widow themselves.
I understand that the family is going thru something terrible, but on the other hand my nerves are also limited, especially if nobody helps me and everybody thinks I have to answer every question regarding this topic.
Normally I am in a food diary here, but I had to get this off my chest. I will post separately about food now.